Monday, August 2, 2010

Preparation for the Big Day

In Wedding Planning comes a lot of planning... duh. With in planning the wedding there are things to prepare for, both physically and emotionally, oh and fashionably (not even sure if that is a word, but I am using it).

Today we will focus on emotional preparation. Be warned this is going to be lengthy.

Good vs. Bad

Stress is a huge part of my wedding plans. This could be because of many reasons, one being that I am a control freak and two being that I do not have a lot of help. The help part could be relative to me trying to control everything, but I still feel like I do not have a lot of people to turn full projects over to. This is mostly because I feel bad asking for help.
I am getting married in a place 2 hours from my hometown, which is fine because I have not lived there for 6 years or more, but a lot of my family is there and some friends.
My bridesmaids are all over the country, which sort of sucks because I don't feel that warm fuzzy, bridal party love.... again, my fault because I picked pals that live far away.

Everyone says, if you want help, just ask! that is easier said then done.

So that is the down side of emotion, now for the upside.


The joy that people get in their face when you talk about weddings (well most people, sorry for those haters out there). The excitement that people want to throw you parties... FUN. The anticipation as you build your vision of a wedding and anxiously waiting for that day to get here so you can watch it unfold!


An interesting emotion that I felt recently is a connection to my engagement ring. We have been engaged for over a year (a year in May) and on Monday I handed my ring over to the jewelers.... for a WEEK. They are making some changes to customize it to my wedding band.
 No big deal I thought, until I went to work and went out in public. I feel almost less than, inadequate... who knew that a piece of jewelry could make you feel complete. I find myself hiding my left hand from people. I realize that it is an attachment to B as well, that he picked the ring out and that it makes me feel like he is with me even when he is not.
Also, as silly as it sounds, I feel special, like "hey look at me! I am getting married".... no one cares, but again it brings you back to the earlier paragraph when people who do care get so excited!

Those are just a few emotions that I am going through lately. Those are just the recent ones, it has been a LONG planning process and I have been through a lot.
I have yet to see a wedding book that prepares you for the emotional roller coaster that you are on. Brides need to be told that it is not all rainbows and butterflies, there are stages in the process where you need to be prepared to feel different. You will yell at someone, most likely your honey, you will cry, you will laugh, you will most likely lose weight and gain it back! BE PREPARED....

Next- Physical Preparation!

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